Don’t Lose Your Virginity

When you said yes to Jesus, something powerful happened—you were washed, cleansed, and made brand new. The blood didn’t just forgive your past, it reset your future. You became a spiritual virgin, set apart for one Husband—Christ.

Paul says it this way:

For I am jealous for you with the jealousy of God himself. I promised you as a pure bride to one husband—Christ. (2 Corinthians 11:2 NLT)

That’s not casual dating language. That’s covenant. That’s wedding vows. And it means you and I weren’t saved to flirt with the world but to remain faithful until the wedding feast of the Lamb (Revelation 19:7–9).

A Virgin Bride for the Bridegroom

Being born again isn’t just escaping hell—it’s being prepared for a wedding. Every stain of sin is washed away (2 Corinthians 5:17), and we are clothed in purity like a bride dressed in white. Jesus didn’t purchase us with His blood so we could wander through life giving pieces of ourselves away to every counterfeit. He saved us to walk us down the aisle.

And that’s where the tension lies: will we stay faithful? Or will we give our virginity away to things that will never love us back?

Dating God vs. Marrying the Lamb

Here’s the danger: James 4:4 calls friendship with the world spiritual adultery. When we chase after idols—whether that’s pleasure, money, success, or approval—we’re cheating on the One who already gave us everything.

I came across a line in The God Chasers: Pursuing the Lover of Your Soul by Tommy Tenney that hit me like a punch to the gut:

“If your definition of fun is 'low commitment and lots of thrills and chills,' then all you’ve ever wanted to do is 'date God.' You just wanted to get in the back seat with Him...God is tired of us wanting to get our thrills from Him without putting on the ring of commitment.” (77)

That’s it. Too many want to “date” God for the goosebumps, the blessings, the moments of thrill. But Jesus isn’t looking for a date. He's looking for commitment. He’s looking for a Bride. Dating is temporary. Marriage is eternal.

Keeping the Oil Burning

That’s why Jesus told the parable of the ten virgins in Matthew 25. The wise ones didn’t just wait—they stayed full. They kept oil in their lamps, as well as extra on stand-by. That oil represents intimacy with the Holy Spirit. It’s what happens when you choose worship over distraction, prayer over compromise, His Word over the world’s lies.

This isn’t about cold legalism—it’s about fiery longing. Staying faithful is not a checklist, it’s a relationship. It’s the heartbeat of a Bride who can’t wait to see her Groom.

Paul said Christ is cleansing His Bride, washing her with the Word, preparing her to be holy and blameless (Ephesians 5:26–27). Our part is to keep our hearts burning, to guard our purity, and to keep saying “yes” to Him and “no” to every counterfeit that calls our name.

The Wedding Day

Revelation 19:9 declares it:

The angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the wedding feast of the Lamb.” And he added, “These are true words that come from God.” (NLT)

That’s where this story ends. The Bridegroom is coming. And when He comes, He won’t be looking for people who only dated Him on Sundays—He’ll be looking for those who stayed faithful through the waiting, the longing, and the cost.

Don’t lose your virginity. Don’t cheapen your covenant. Don’t trade eternal intimacy for a fling with the world.

You can date the world and lose Him, or you can marry the Lamb and gain eternity.

Tenney, Tommy. The God Chasers: Pursuing the Lover of Your Soul. Destiny Image Publishers, Inc. 2005.

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